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For almost 20 years, the Self Esteem Shop has been serving the mental health community, with an array of therapeutic resources. We carry books, play therapy toys, puppets, posters, and DVDs for the mental health practitioner and the layman and we're constantly updating our website with new and exciting resources.
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DeeDee's Recommendations for
National Teen Self-Esteem Month
May is National Teen Self-Esteem Month. In today's society, young people are growing up faster than ever before and they need to develop the skills to surmount life's challenges. Teen Esteem
by Pat Palmer, helps teens to develop refusal skills and the positive attitudes necessary to handle peer pressure, substance abuse, and a myriad of other challenges that they face. It offers strategies to help teens handle common issues. Some of these include depression, violence, pressure to succeed, eating disorders, and dealing with adults.
Palmer contends that the maps in shopping malls that show "you are here" are there for a reason: it's a lot easier to know where you're going - and how to get there - if you know where you are now. This book can give you a better idea of your current station and help you build the skills you need to get where you want to go!
When working with Teens,I find that when they acquire and practice new life skills,their performance goes up and self-esteem is enhanced. Activity sheets can be a great way to generate ideas and prompt candid discussions. Understanding Me: Reproducible Masters for Building Life Skills & Self-Esteem in Teens is chock-full of more than 85 illustrated, ready-to-use activity worksheets. Each one is designed to enhance the social emotional learning of teens while helping them develop and acknowledge important and identifiable life skills.
When students deem themselves capable of dealing with life's many challenges, they feel good about themselves, and when they feel good about themselves they are capable of higher performance and achievement. These activities are suitable to use with individuals and groups in a variety of settings including agency, church, or school. Life skills addressed include decision making, goal setting, communication, trust, friendship, and many more.
Another great resource on teen self esteem - which was written for upper elementary and middle school, but I find really great for ages 9 to 109 - is Growing Up with a Bucket Full of Happiness: Three Rules for a Happier Life.
It builds on the lessons learned in Have You Filled a Bucket Today?,  a book written for young children that teaches about important character traits through the concept of "bucket filling." Bucket filling is a metaphor for showing kindness to others through words and deeds. The premise is simple, yet powerful.
Growing Up is a more mature message that reminds us that our words can empower or destroy ourselves and those around us. It teaches the intrinsic benefits of kindness while resolving one of the most threatening social problems in schools today: bullying and its lasting effects. Author Carol McCloud offers readers the tools they need to live more satisfying lives and coping strategies to handle mean and abusive behaviors.
She teaches three life changing rules, "Carry around a full bucket" (learning kindness, understanding, resiliency, and other positive character traits), "Don't be a bucket dipper" (i.e. a bully), and "Put a lid on your bucket" (learning what is and is not under your control). These rules are explained in terms that anyone over age 9 can readily understand. The idea of carrying a metaphorical bucket around helps us understand why people act the way they do. The rewards of practicing bucket filling daily result in a stronger sense of self esteem.
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Additional resources on building and maintaining healthy self esteem (at all ages!), are available on the Self Esteem Shop website, with more being added every day!
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DeeDee's Corner: Cyberbullying
Hi DeeDee,
I'm a single mom of a 14 year old, who is being bullied both at school and on the Internet. Lately, she's been very down on herself. I've tried to console and help her, but I feel like I'm in over my head and I don't really understand much about cyberbullying. I dealt with mean girls when I was her age. Is it really that different? I fear she's right when she tells me "you just don't understand." Do you have any helpful tips for me, or perhaps a book you could recommend? - SG
SG,
It's great that you are trying to get involved in your daughter's life. It's a challenge to feel good about yourself when you're being put down or excluded. Your question is a good one. The main difference today, which magnifies the problem, is that bullying used to stop at the end of the school day when kids went home. Sadly, this is no longer the case, as bullies are using social media, like Facebook, to continue their torment outside of school, hence the name, "cyberbullying." In addition to the constant attacks, word can spread much faster over the Internet as opposed to when it's done in front of a few bystanders.
Avoid the phrase "I understand" at all costs. A nonjudgmental listening ear is often helpful. Making that effort to stand in her shoes and recognize the feelings she is experiencing without minimizing or catastrophizing is important. A support system is equally vital. Does she have a counselor, teacher, or friend that might be helpful to her? Be on the lookout for changes in her behavior, physical symptoms and/or truancy from school.
I wish I could give you a magic answer, but unfortunately, there is no "one size fits all" solution. A great book, for both you and your daughter, that offers insight in to bullying behavior and provides strategies to fend off them off is Mean Chicks, Cliques, and Dirty Tricks by Erika Karres. Dr. Karres interviewed more than 1000 girls who shared their texts, emails, and other true stories of when they had been victims or witnesses of bullying. Teens have told me that the most helpful parts of this resource are the stories shared by real teens that have been similarly tormented. It helped them (the reader) feel less isolated and the realistic suggestions gave them hope that they too could come out on top.
Mean Chicks offers a reader-friendly format. 
The first half of the book describes many different types of bullies and some helpful suggestions on handling them. Dr. Karres covers the gamut from the least worrisome (the Snob or the Gossip) to the most vicious of the bullies intent on crushing their "victim" (the Cyber Pit Bully). She also helps the reader understand the "frenemy," a so-called friend whose words or actions bring you down time after time. Coming to the conclusion that this person is not a real friend and figuring out how to handle it are also addressed. The second half of the book focuses on standing up for yourself, the power of one, and the power of peers banding together to stand up to the Cyberbully I highly recommend Mean Chicks, Cliques, and Dirty Tricks as a helpful manual for handling bullies and coming out on top. Below I've also included a couple of related links that offer additional info on relational aggression.
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